Cleanliness is a highly subjective concept that can vary widely from person to person. What one person may consider clean and tidy, another person may view as messy and unkempt.
These differences in standards of cleanliness can cause tension and conflict, especially in shared living spaces such as homes, apartments, or dormitories. There are many factors that can influence a person's standards of cleanliness.
Some people may have grown up in households where cleaning was a high priority, while others may have grown up in more relaxed or cluttered environments. Personal preferences and habits can also play a role, with some people preferring a minimalist and uncluttered environment, while others may be comfortable with more items and decor in their living space.
What happens when these preferences collide? The story we have today describes one of those cases.
OP and her husband have been married for four years and have three children: two from previous marriages, (12M) and (10M), and (18F), who lives with them full-time. Recently, O, who just started college, has been bringing friends over to hang out at their house, and they are leaving a mess behind.
OP recently hired a housekeeper to clean the house once a week, but her friends made the entire house filthy before OP could come home. OP was upset by the mess and asked her stepdaughter to pay for the damages, or she would stop paying for her phone.
However, is insisting that she and her friends did not cause the damage and cannot afford to pay the phone bill if it is cut off. OP has video proof that her friends were responsible for the mess.
OP's husband is trying to make her let it go since has always struggled with making friends, but OP is not willing to overlook the expense and the mess. She wants to take responsibility for her actions and pay for the damages.
OP asks:
OP and her husband have been married for four years and have three children: two from previous marriages, (12M) and (10M), and (18F), who lives with them full-time.
Recently, O, who just started college, has been bringing friends over to hang out at their house, and they are leaving a mess behind.
OP recently hired a housekeeper to clean the house once a week, but her friends made the entire house filthy before OP could come home.
OP was upset by the mess and asked her stepdaughter to pay for the damages, or she would stop paying for her phone.
OP emphasizes again that the cleaning service is expensive
